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5 Steps to Breaking Free from Porn (Joe Dallas)

STEP 5

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STEP 5 - ANTICIPATION

Your Race Is On; Your Race Will End. But How?
With Quotes from Joe Dallas’ 5 Steps

Summary

Joe does a great job of summarizing his book AND the Conquer Series in these 8 points. Take turns reading the points and putting them in your words. After you have read them all, which point stands out for you the most right now and why?

  1. You’ve realized your problem with porn was ultimately a problem with God. This led you to recommit to deeper fellowship with Him through daily Bible study and prayer. Through these activities, you’re getting to know Him better and continuing to grow spiritually and emotionally.
  2. You’ve realized you’re a created being whose Creator has specific intentions for you. You’ve recommitted to staying within His intentions, continuing to recognize them and grow into them.
  3. You’ve realized the power of the familiar, including familiar habits. You’ve also realized you’re not likely to abandon a familiar habit as long as you have access to it. As much as possible, you’ve cut off access to porn by getting the Covenant Eyes [or Accountable2You] system installed on your computer. You’ve also cancelled any subscriptions to channels or media offering content you know you need to avoid. You’ve also stopped any material from coming into your home or life that may draw you back into unclean thinking. On this point you were ruthless and brutally honest with yourself, knowing it was necessary for success.
  4. You’ve realized that when you repeat a pleasurable experience, your brain records it in your memory and brings it to your mind, along with a reminder of its pleasure. Knowing how difficult it is to resist the pull of porn on your own and wisely not trusting your limited, human integrity, you’ve established weekly accountability with a man or group you trust. You’ve chosen to be regularly asked to give an account of the way you’re handling temptations and your sexual nature in general.
  5. You’ve realized you trained your brain to expect the chemical rush that comes with porn. You acknowledge that your brain may even register that “rush” as a necessity, causing you to feel porn is a physical need. Knowing how wrong that is and how strong your brain’s message will be, you know to expect some discomfort. You also know the discomfort won’t hurt you, so you accept it as part of leaving an ingrained, unclean habit. You’ve also developed alternative pleasurable experiences that are legitimate to help you resist the pull of pornography without feeling deprived.
  6. You’ve realized there may be emotional pain in your life that you’ve been trying to medicate through porn use. While recognizing that’s no excuse for deliberate sin, the pain may be calling your attention to longstanding problems that need addressing. So with the wise counsel of a pastor or mentor, you are determining whether or not there are relational problems you need to confront, correct, or let go of.
  7. You’ve realized your sin pained God, damaged others, and weakened the body of Christ. Knowing this, you’ve made amends when possible. Realizing the impact of your sin on so many innocent people, you are determined to never repeat it. Having learned all of this and taken the necessary steps in light of these realizations, let’s consider a final principle and some practices to develop as you anticipate your future.
  8. God has a purpose for your life, including specific plans for you. You have a limited amount of time to see those plans fulfilled, and then you’ll be gone. That’s when you’ll face a reckoning at the judgment seat of Christ and spend eternity with Him. That’s the big picture. Your use of porn is but one of many things interfering with the bigger plans God has for you. His unwillingness to let you continue in this addiction springs not only from His holy hatred for sin, but also from His intolerance for anything keeping His larger purposes from being fulfilled in you.

Once again, which point stands out for you the most right now and why?

To the last point, answer these 3 questions from the book:

  1. Take time to describe [in writing] what you believe the rest of your life will look like since you’ve give up porn. Include your calling, your primary relationships, and your responsibilities. What do you believe God is calling you to accomplish before your life is over? What kind of man does He want you to be as you run this race? Be detailed and specific.
  2. Describe [in writing] the effect porn would have on the rest of your life if you continued to use it. Include every area of your life—relationship with God, family and friend relationships, and spiritual life. Again be detailed and specific.
  3. Describe what you’d like people to say about you at your funeral. Can that be said of you right now? Explain why or why not.

What's your next step now after the Conquer Series?

 

Karl House